My Love Story

Finally, I remember THE day.
No celebrations, no gifts for several years,
but did it really matter?


It has been nine years,
It started with just the two of us,
and now there are three more little us.
When I look into their eyes, I see us.
They are the most precious gifts,
don't you think so?


Although we were in the same school for six years,
nothing actually happened.
I knew you and you knew me,
but the only thing lacking was the sparks


A call changed everything.
My heart was pounding very fast when you called me that night.
Sorry, I made you waited so long,
although it was not a marriage proposal,
but I had to be sure before I said yes - to be your girlfriend.


It's amazing that we started with us being apart,
studying in different countries.
Many said that it won't work,
but it worked, didn't it?


My suitors didn't give up,
when they knew I had you.
but they couldn't do anything
as I reserved my heart only for you.


We made our friends wonder,
why you and me would make a couple.
Til now, nobody seems to get the answer.

I was your first and you were my first.
Some may say we were silly to be married to our first love
when we should have tried a few and pick and choose
but hey, we were very sure that it would work out,
We were sure of our love.


I'd like to tell you that I have never regretted being with you,
and I know you have not regretted marrying me either.

I love you darling!

*Every woman would look her best in wedding photos.*
*Don't trust wedding photos!*

Now, age has caught up with us.
We do not look like this anymore.
When we grow old and have wrinkles,
we will proudly tell our grandchildren
our love story.

I Love You Glitter Graphics

Away

It is 12.30am now and in another 9 to 10 hours, I will be heading south to Malacca with my family. Spending some fun and quality time with the children is always rewarding for me. I will be meeting Miche and Jesslyn tomorrow evening and I do hope that Leah, LiLi, Hazel, Yenny, Jason and other Malacca bloggers can join us. Details here.


Til then, here's wishing you a happy weekend.

A Very Domestic Holiday

Our trip to Singapore has been cancelled! I can’t meet Trinity! I feel so sad. Although we don’t get to go to Singapore, we can still have fun here in Malaysia. So, hubby and I plan a very “domestic” holiday for us and the children.


So, what is that very “domestic” holiday?

A buffet dinner – We went to Renaissance KL last Saturday and the kids enjoyed the chocolate fountain tremendously.

A movie at the cinema – Last Wednesday, we brought our children to the cinema for this movie. It was wonderful. I just love the story and the characters and if you ask me to watch again, I would be very happy to say “YES”.

One night stay at a five star hotel – It would be this Saturday. We are going to put up a night in Malacca and I will meet Miche, Jesslyn and maybe other bloggers in Malacca. It would be wonderful to meet them. I am so excited! For those who are staying in Malacca, do come and join us. Here are the details.

As long as we do everything as a family, it doesn't matter where we go and what we do. I'm happy to have a close family. So, how do you spend your holidays?

When You Have Three Kids ...

What happens when you have three children? Do you still enjoy life? Well, I would say that life is totally different and many sacrifices have to be made. You can’t be going out with friends all the time when you have crying babies and demanding children to attend to. You can’t be wearing sexy dresses when you have to worry about your children throwing out on you and pulling your dress but you can still look presentable with a nice blouse and light makeup.


Now with three kids, I often go out in jeans without a handbag. You may want to ask me why and I can tell you that it is really not convenient to wear a dress and to carry a handbag while looking after three active children. You may have to chase them at times and bend up and down if you know what I mean.


So, do I enjoy my current life? I DO! With the children around, I miss many things but I gain a lot too! At least I spend time with my children, laugh with them, learn with them and grow with them. Off course when they are naughty, I get very angry but come to think of it, they are my angels, training my patience and I have to thank them in return. These moments are precious to me and I love every minute of it. I can still go shopping for handbags and sexy dresses when they grow up. It will never be too late.

Stress Brings Negative Feelings

Do you feel upset or frustrated when your other children keep calling: “Mummy, mummy…” while you are busy attending to your sick child and your husband is not at home to help? Sometimes I do feel it.


I know that it may be a sign that I am stressful as stress can bring about negative feelings. Stress is really unavoidable although we usually don’t admit experiencing it. Nyn is having high fever now and I admit I am stressful.


I tell myself that my husband is not at home because he is working hard for the future of our family, unlike other men who go out for other reasons such as gambling. Often, these are the men who would go into debt and need debt advice. So, I shouldn't feel upset and should be strong in handling things myself. I have to be very positive and everything would be alright.

All in all, I should consider myself a very lucky woman who has a good husband who puts family and career first. Although he may not be as romantic as other men, he loves me and the children in his own way.

Each Child Is Different

Pam reminded me that each child is different and I totally agree with her. I have 3 children with 3 different characteristics and personalities. Bringing them up and grooming them is really not an easy task. The same approach just doesn't work for each one of them. It's really NOT like passing down clothes from the eldest to the youngest. It's much more!

That's a great challenge, isn't it?

Children are fun when they are nice and they are a headache when they are naughty. I remembered when I first became a mother, I knew nothing about parenting. I had to follow other people's advice on how to take care of a baby and how to teach a child. I learned different ways from different people but not all techniques work for me and my child.

Through time, I learned. I learned to analyse my children's personality, I learn to adapt and to change my approach to suit me and my children.

Karl is the gentle and timid type. When he was a baby, he'd jump at every sound. Now that he has grown into a 6 year old boy, he's still a cry baby but he's not shy anymore. With him, I had to be extra gentle. I praise Karl a lot and say things like "you can do it!", "I believe in you!" or "Karl is clever, I am sure you can think of a way." to encourage him to be more confident.

Wayne is bold, playful and very active. Sometimes, he can be very stubborn and demanding too. He loves me very much and yearns for my love. So, when he is up to mischieve, I would say: "I love the good Wayne but not the naughty Wayne. Where's my good boy Wayne?" He would say: "Here!" and he would calm down and hug me. He's afraid that I don't love him and would always be the good Wayne instead of the naughty Wayne.

Nyn is very understanding and sweet. When I am busy and she has to be with my maid, she would understand and will not disturb me. When she sees her father sleeping, she would say "shh" asking everyone to keep quiet. With my little honey angel, I don't have to yell. All I need to do is to explain.

Parenting is not easy and it is definitely not a one shoe fits all task. Be CREATIVE in your approach and change it when necessary to fit you and your child. Afterall, you are your children's parents and YOU know them best.

See Mummy

This morning when Karl and Wayne were preparing themselves for school, they called me suddenly.

My boys: Mummy, come and see.

Me: What’s up?

Karl: That Indian uncle simply throws rubbish.

Me: Where?

Wayne: There. He throws rubbish there (pointing to the opposite of our house).

Me: Hahaha… he is not throwing rubbish. He is a rubbish collector. He is only putting the rubbish together so that when the rubbish truck comes, he can upload the rubbish into the truck.

My boys: O.

It’s really funny to hear that but in my heart I was glad to hear what they say because I know that they have got the idea of where to litter when they couldn’t bear to see other people dirtying the place. Bravo to “Informal Learning”. I guess that’s how they pick up this value.

Have You Been Neglecting Your Husband?

I think I have! Oh NO...

After having 3 kids, I tend to spend more time with my kids. Everything I buy or cook or do, I think of them first. For instance, when I wake up in the middle of the night, I would see that my children are covered with blankets and my husband would go: "Hey, so you only take care of those that come out from your stomach and leave those that come out from other people's stomach all alone! (that means him!)"

Sometimes, husband and wife should go out dating, leaving the kids out, I mean. It seems a little cruel to the kids to leave them at home while you and your husband go for a dinner or a movie but this is essential to maintain a good relationship. Don't you agree?

So, yesterday, my husband and I went out for a date and we had a splendid Japanese buffet together (Will write about it in the next post) and today we went out again for a movie. Guess which movie did we go for? It's a very interesting movie where you would never have guessed who the killer really is. We had another wonderful time this afternoon. (So, I have been working hard not to neglect him. Haha...)

What a great husband I have here! With him, I am never bored as he jokes about everything and make me laugh. He's also a good daddy who loves his children dearly. How lucky I am to have him as my partner (at work) and my companion (at home).

Darling, Sweetheart, Honey Angel

My Darling: Karl

Being the eldest, he was always protected by me and most of all by my mom. My mom took care of Karl in my home town (Tangkak, Johor) when he was a baby as I was working at that time and took up MBA as a part time course. Every weeked, my husband and I would take the trouble to travel from KL to Tangkak just to be with Karl. Come to think of it, it was indeed very tiring but to be positive, this arrangement actually boost my motivation to finish my MBA faster so that I can bring Karl up to KL. So, my darling grew up to be a little timid at first but now at the age of 6, he is more sporting, more open and he can even "act" in role plays in the school and during playgroup. Ways to train him? I always tell my children stories at home and make them the actors and actresses. They really enjoy that and frequently ask to switch roles. There are other ways too and these will be updated from time to time. Karl is a smart boy, very good in his English and Malay. He can read very well now and can even read a story to his brother and sister. How amazing! I have got a little helper now.

My Sweetheart: Wayne


Wayne is the middle child and the middle child is said to be always neglected but Wayne is never a neglected child. He is a happy child and he has the gift of the gap. The teachers adore him as he can really TALK! I remembered attending my MBA convocation with little Wayne still in my stomach. What a memory! Now, this little baby who went up stage with me has turned 4. Nowadays, he likes to read story books with lots of pictures, skipping all the words, off course and loves jigsaw puzzles. My worries about him not liking books and not catching up in his studies have slowly vanished. Thank goodness I am determined enough to stick to informal learning.

My Honey Angel: Nyn

When I ask Karl and Wayne whether I should call Nyn "Honey" or "Angel", Karl quickly suggested: "Mummy, why don't we call her Honey Angel?" and that's how Nyn becomes the honey angel of this house. Whenever I call her: "Honey angel!", Nyn will always give me a big grin. She is so sweet, so nice and so cute. Whenever we go out shopping, she will attract many admirers who stole snapshots of her and even come all the way up just to shake her hand. Something that surprised many is her ability to converse in BAHASA MELAYU and she is only TWO years old.

My darling, sweetheart and honey angel, mummy love you so much.