Thursday, January 31, 2008

What to do when Daddy and Mummy ……?

Now, this is a problem I have been working on for a long time but until today, it has yet to be solved completely.

I remembered reading one of Kellan’s posts and it kept me thinking about me and my husband. If you have been reading my posts frequently since I started blogging, you should know that I am very much into positive parenting since last year and my aim is to become my children’s best friend. For my new friends, you may want to click the link to read my previous posts.

I have been trying and trying with many types of approaches and I have been cracking my head to be creative to give my children some surprises while instilling some positive values into them. Along the way, I find explanation not very effective as too lengthy an explanation becomes a NAG and the children tend not to listen.

You must be thinking that I am a very patient person who does not get angry. Hey, I wish I could be that perfect person too but I am not there yet. Sometimes when I am stressful, I do get angry and I do show my temper. My children are not that obedient yet especially my middle child but I belief that love will never fail and with as much patience as possible, my children will grow up to be useful and good beings.

While I am working hard towards positive parenting, my husband chooses to scold and yell at the kids. To him, kids should be afraid of either one of the parents. When he raises his voice, his voice gets really loud and that scares the children. Off course, he doesn’t have bad intention. I have tried talking to him. He knows that scolding doesn’t work but he thinks that the soft approach doesn’t work all the time either.

One day, while I was not around in the house, he scolded the two boys for throwing tantrum. My eldest son, Karl, wrote a note to his daddy and that note actually made my husband realize that his approach was a little too harsh on the kids. He had a heart to heart talk with the boys and they had a mutual agreement. When I returned, he told me happily that his relationship with the boys has improved.

So, what’s in that note? Here it is:

My darling Karl had remembered what I told him: “When mummy is too angry, give me a hug and ask me to control my temper.” He has put that down in words and used it on daddy! There’s one for me too.

So, what to do if both parents use different approaches? The experts say it’s not good but in reality, what do you think?

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

It's Food Today

Today's update would be on food and you know where to find it. Hop over to my other blog to find out what's up.

For food lover, don't miss this. For non-food lover, don't miss this either. You can always recommend it to someone else.

Demand Less and Thank More

There are many things that we ought to be grateful for but we tend to forget. We complain, we get angry, we feel sad sometimes but while we are having these feelings, we failed to see the bright side of things. Behind each problem, it may be a hope or a blessing! We never know.

I am very grateful:

1. To be made a mother. Motherhood is full of challenges, adventures and fun too.

2. To have a wonderful husband. He is not the perfect man (nobody is) but he loves me in his own way.

3. To have three lovely children. They drive me up the wall sometimes but at times, I feel like holding them in my arms so tightly and never let go. They are the most wonderful gifts that I get and I appreciate having them.

4. To have great parents. They are wonderful parents who love me dearly.

5. To be a normal person with no abnormalities.

6. To be staying in a house with a car to drive. Although I am not rich, it doesn’t matter. At least I am proud to say that I am not lying in the street begging for money.

7. To have a chance to teach children in the Sunday Dhamma School. This is a voluntarily work and I don’t get paid for it but I learn together with the kids along the way.

8. To have a chance to do what I like – write! Blogging is a great way for me to express my feelings and opinions and to get other people’s views too. So, if you have something to say, do leave me a comment.

I told my children and the children in Sunday Dhamma School this: When you want to complain, think of the less fortunate people and be grateful for what you have. Demand less and thank more.

This is supposed to be a tag from delittleones. It is about the 8 things that I am grateful for. For those who like this topic, feel free to tag along.


My husband and I wear eyeglasses and we often look around to search for good quality eyeglasses with reasonable price.

I had a great discovery: Zenni Optical! They sell a great variety of eyeglasses ranging from the Zenni Optical $8 Rx Glasses to the pure titanium framed eyeglasses. Zenni Optical offers eyeglasses for adults as well as children and they even have a range for women! The best thing is that they deliver internationally!

So, Best Thing Found: Zenni Optical, I would say!

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Go Red

While people are worried about SARS and AIDS, heart disease has become the number one killer of women and men in America. It has also become the projected top four leading causes of death globally in year 2030.

Seeing that many do not realize the seriousness of heart disease and do not know the symptoms as well as the preventive measures, The American Heart Association together with Campbell, is organizing a Go Red For Women movement to create awareness and to equip women with the knowledge and tools to reduce risk and to lead a healthy lifestyle.

Toni Braxton, a six time Grammy award winner and heart disease survivor, will kick off American Heart Month in February. She would be wearing one of the three dresses designed for her by famous designer, Lisa Perry.

So, what can we as women help in this campaign? We can vote for the dress that Toni Braxton should wear on the particular day. For every vote, Campbell is donating $1 to the Go Red For Women movement. Tell as many friends as possible to support this campaign.

For those who have not voted, cast your vote today and at the same time, take the go red heart checkup and read Toni Braxton’s story.

Love your heart! Go red!

Rope Light, Anyone?

I have just taken down my christmas tree together with my children the other day. When I looked at my christmas tree, I kept thinking about how it would look nicer and more attractive with some rope lighting.

Rope lights, are small little bulbs covered in a very flexible PVC tube. This versatile, easy to use and easy to install rope light makes it a very popular type of lighting preferred by many merchants and home users today. Many use this type of rope light to decorate their homes, offices, and even buildings with displays during festive seasons. sells a great variety of rope lights which come in various rainbow colors. If you are going for quality and durability, this is a site you must visit. The factory of produces anti aging and UV additives rope lights, giving you the best rope light you could ever find.

The quality gives satisfaction and creates a trust among the many returning customers. Besides quality, provides superior service to clear customers’ doubts and to answer customers’ inquiries. Without the middle man, offers the lowest price straight to the end users. With the finest rope light coupled with the lowest price, this is a deal you would not want to miss.

Saturday, January 26, 2008

Big Bang - World Record

I received invitations from Juliana, Hazel, Slavemom and Trinity to join in the Big Bang World Record. Dear friends, here I come.

We are challenge you, everyone, to participate this "Big Bang - World Record". Our goal is to exceed 1.000 links. Together will be reach that goal. Just make sure you follow the rules. Have fun!

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1. You do not have to be tagged to play along. This game is simple and so are the rules.Copy from *Start Copy Here* through *End Copy Here*2. Add your site(s) to the list. Just be sure to post at each site you add.3. Tag or don’t tag, your choice, however, the more tags you create the bigger the list will grow.4. Let me know your blog’s name and url by leaving me a comment HERE. I will add you to the master list. (If you would like the scroll box code, leave me your email address and I will email it to you.)5. Come back and copy the master list back to your site, often. This process will allow late-comers to get as much link benefit as the first ones in.
1-Attitude, the Ultimate Power 2-Juliana's Site 3-Rusin Roundup 4-Grow Rich Along With Me 5-Comedy Plus 6-lynda's loft 7-Amel's Realm 8-MAX 9-Speedcat Hollydale 10-Mariuca 11-Complain Complain Complain 12-Mariuca's Perfume Gallery 13-Life Is A Roller Coaster 14-Sugar Queen's Dream 15-First Time Dad 16-Life 17-My Life 18-The Painted Veil 19-My Thoughts 21-Little Aussie Cynic 22-A Nice Place in the Sun 24-The Down Side OF Up 25-Ladyjava's Lounge 26-Cat Tales 27-moms.....check nyo 28-Colorado Baby 29-It's a Woman's World 30-ENLIGHTENED BITS 31-My View of "It" 32-My Reviews and Finds Along the Way 33-Our Hep Chat 34-Rantings of a Woman 35-The Callalily Space 36-Mom Knows Everything 37-Hazel 38-Chronicles and Tales Unlimited (RED) 39-From the Mouth of Jabber Jaws 40-Sunny Side Up Foodie & Lifestyle 41-Carmel Corn 42-Daily Stock Picks 43-The Whole New World 44-Wifespeak 45-Slavery Bliss 46-Rooms of My Heart 47-Unpredictable Life 48-My Life, My World 49- At Your Service 50-All About Ebay 51-Everything Amazon 52-Turn On, Tune In, Drop Out 53-My So-Called Site 54-New Wife Blog 55-Tendre Poison 323 56-Nick's Bytes 57-My Scratch Pad 58-Choc Mint Girl 59-Life Is Just Around the Corner... 60-Amori, poseia, art... virtuali by Hanna 61-Maryannaville 62-monaco - monaco's 63-Nyumix's Blog 64-read my mind - my keyboard monologues 65-Shower You Children With Love - The Right Way 66-Secret Agent Mama 67-Pinaymama's Diary 68-Answers to the Questions 69-Work of the Poet 70-A Total Blog 71-My life, my hope, my future 72-NORTE 73-A Window to Our World 74-Life as a Mom 75-FIELD OF DREAMS 76-lisgold 77-See Me for What You 78-Caught in The Stream 79-Pinay Mommy Online - My Home 80-foster me up 81-CRUEL VIRGIN 82-Garden of Moments in Blog 83-So Cute 84-Love Everlasting 85-WeLcOmE To My CriB 86-WELCOM TO PINAYSMILE'S JOURNEY 87-Ice's Icelog 88-Jenny's Wandering Thoughts 89-Hobbies and Such 90-Sweet Paradise 91-Mommy's Gibble Gabbles 92-Rusin Review's 93-My Small World 94-Little Peanut 95-Online Ramblings 96-My Mood My Feeling 97-BLOG it with ALLEN 98-Entertainment World 99-Let's Go Singapore 100-Firelynx 101-Catsy Carpe Diem 102-Every Beat Of My Heart 103-Always Da Fresh Princess 104-Listening.. 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(my world, my place, my views...!) 420-Matt's blog (World of Insanity) 421-Lifestyle chronicles 422-The Alien Next Door 423-CMAQUEST 424-The Mascot 425-NARUTO ADDICT MANIA 426-Friendster Layouts 427-borneo tatoo...the original body ink 428-DOMANTIX 429-CULTURED SHOCK 430-EuWorx 431-HUBPRIME 432-STAR SURFACE 433-MY KALEIDOSCOPE WORLD 434-luckycharms 435-John's Blog - Maybe I Am Joking? 436-NEW WORDPRESS THEMES 437-WEB VIDEO HITS 438-TOP MUSIC VIDEOS 439-TEXT MESSAGES 440-Homemade Haven 441-TAGMEMEAWARD CAT 442-Coriander Dreams 443-BrainLoops 444-Soul Meets World 445-Speak The Speech 446-The Tall Poppy 447-My Day Off 448-Internet Business Promotions and Opportunities 449-Gage's World 450-PIXY ROSE 451-John's Cynical Blog 452-Poliblog 453-Techcheck 455-RUSTYGANGSTER 456- INSERT YOURSELF HERE

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Let's join in the Big Bang World Record:

2008 Linking Love

I got this tag from Juliana.

Cut and paste the following starting here.I have randomly selected 5 of you below to be tagged and I hope that you will similarly publish this post in your blog. You will have to tag 5 other bloggers and just keep adding on to the list. (Do not replace, just keep on adding! Yes we hope it will be a long list!)It’s real easy! Tag others and see your Technorati Authority increase exponentially! The benefits of Viral Linking:- One of the fastest ways to see your technorati authority explode!- Increase your Google PageRank fast- Attract large volume of new traffic to your site- Build your community- Make new friends!

Tagging: Silvery, Kiasumum, All Precious Moment, delittleones, Everydayhealy, Keeyit, Little darlings, Suzette

Friday, January 25, 2008

Cultural Shock!

I had a cultural shock! It happened on 3rd of January 2008 when I first sent my eldest son, Karl, to his school. He is in Primary One now and is attending a Chinese school with 3,000 students. When you think 24 students a class is too much for your child, think again! This school has to place 50 students into a class!

Most of us who send our children to private pre-schools are way too lucky. Why do I say so? Just bring yourselves back to the mornings when you send your child to school. All you have to do is just to follow the flow of the traffic in one direction (planned by the pre-school), drop your child (A teacher would be there to bring your child into the school building) and go for work or breakfast. The same applies during dismissal. The system seems so convenient and easy!

Now, when I send my child to primary school, I had to go earlier than others or I would be stuck in a jam. The traffic flow is terrible! You can see cars moving in every direction making it difficult to move around during peak hours. There are not enough car parks and I have to park my car far from school when I pick my child. So, the other alternative would be to pick my child later than others to avoid the jam and the crowd. Children have to walk in and out of the school gate themselves without a teacher bringing them to the car. They must even be alert enough to listen to the whistle which means “step aside, a car is coming!”

Parents waiting to pick their children

In pre-schools, everything is taken care of by the teachers. The children have to just request and the teacher would do everything for them. In primary school, everything has to be done by your child. There is no more pampering and no more assistance.

Look at those bags! The students each has a trolley school bag where they would drag in and out of school everyday. I tried to carry my son’s bag and it is really heavy! No joke! I wouldn’t want to carry that bag myself! My husband even suggested getting the Asus Eee notebook so that Karl can scan the pages of his books and just bring that notebook to school. Now, what do you think of his idea? I wonder whether it is what the western world practice.

To avoid inconvenience, some parents prefer to homeschool their children but for me, I still prefer sending my children to school.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

What Game Did We Play?

We played another game the other day and had lots of fun. The children were laughing and enjoying themselves. What game did we play? Head over to my play blog to have a look. Click here.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Maid Or No Maid?

In Malaysia, many people have maids. Every time when I go shopping or dining, I would see families with a maid tagging along. Last Saturday, during our weekly playgroup session, we discussed this issue and we were wondering how people from the other side of the globe (western countries) can afford to live without a maid.

For me, I desperately need a maid but my husband often reminds me that there are many people out there who have five children and do not even have a maid. I have to agree with him but I just can’t do without one. I leave all the house chores to my maid. She takes care of the laundry, the dishes, the cleanliness of the entire house and the food (preparing vegetables and meat before I cook them). As for me, I take care of my work and my children.

It seems that I only take care of two things but they take up a lot of my time and energy. My work is flexible but the workload is there. My children are difficult to handle especially when they are the bodily kinesthetic type. Children don’t only eat and sleep. They need to learn, they need to play, they need bonding and they need to be loved. Educating children doesn’t only mean seeing to their studies or academic. It means grooming them into useful people who have good characteristics, behavior and EQ. That’s the most difficult part of parenting, I guess.

Now, with my eldest son in primary one and the younger two in pre-school, I find it difficult to breathe. With the new schedule, I only have two to three hours for myself to write and to visit blogs. (Sorry for not visiting your blogs so frequently. I am struggling here to even write a post a day. For those who visit my blog frequently, I truly appreciate the kind act and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.) How do I feel? Although I would love to have more time to myself, to update my blogs and to visit all your blogs, I still feel good that I spend time with my children. The special bonding between us can never be replaced by anything!

Back to maids, many argued that having maids mean spoiling our children. The maid would do everything and the children would take for granted that they do not need to help in the house. I am aware of this and I make sure that my children don’t push everything to the maid.

These are the things my children need to do at home despite having a maid:

1) Bring in bag from the car when they return from school, take out water tumbler and lunch box from the bag.
2) Take their plates, fork and spoon from the kitchen before each meal.
3) Bring their plates, fork and spoon to the sink after each meal.
4) Keep the toys.
5) Wipe the table (Karl, my eldest son would do it)
6) Wash school shoes (Karl)
7) Sweep and mop during weekends (Karl)
8) Fold clothes (Sometimes, they would help the maid)

I want my children to have the responsibility of being part of the family and I really hope they understand why I train them this way. I often tell them that all of us live in this house and each and everyone of us have the duty to take good care of our house and to make it a happy home to live in. One day, they would understand.

Do you have a maid at home? If you have one, do you ask your children to participate in house work? If you don’t have one, how do you cope? Do share with me.

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Ball Oh Ball

Children love balls. At least my children love balls. Every time they see a ball, they would pester me to buy them one despite the many balls lying in the toy box. So, what do you do with a ball in your hand? You roll it, throw it, bounce it or kick it.

One day, the kids and I got together to play with the ball and soon they became bored. So, I did this.

Friday, January 18, 2008

For The Love Of Steamboat And Roast Duck

If you are a steamboat lover or a roast duck lover, read this.

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Once Upon A Time...

Once upon a time, in a land faraway, lived a woman who has a passion which she has not discovered. It took her more than 30 years to find her passion. One day, her buddy introduced her to this world called the blogsphere and she began her journey down this strange place which looked like outer space to her.

When she first started, she had no friends and no support except for her buddy who introduced her to this place. She struggled to learn everything in the blogsphere by visiting each and every stranger she came across.

After some time, she managed to know some friends. Support and help kept pouring in and touched her heart tremendously. This place isn’t so bad after all. People in here are very friendly and helpful. She began to like the place and love what she is doing.

One day, her buddy Chinnee gave her the “Be The Blog Award” which says:

This award is presented to a successful blogger, one who can “be the blog” - making it their own, staying with it, interacting with the readers, and just plain having fun.

It came in as an encouragement to the woman to continue her journey. She thought some of the people she met would deserve this award as well. So, here she is passing this award to The New Parent, Tot’s Mom, Tammy, Melissa and Trinity for their capability to write creative and interesting posts. She really enjoys visiting them and listening to their thoughts and opinions.

While she was hopping around, she met a wonderful woman across the sea named Tammy who presented “Your Blog Is A Treasure Award” to her. She was very happy to receive this award which means a lot to her. She felt that LB, Sandy, Sweetiepie and Vegan Momma should have this award because she truly enjoys visiting their virtual home.

Trinity, a wonderful friend that the woman found in the blogsphere gave her “The Bodacious Award” and she felt the strong support from this friend of hers. With this award, she felt more confident with her journey. Hazel, Chinnee, Ling and Wen were the names dancing in the woman’s mind that deserve this award.

Hazel then gave her a surprise with “Best Blogging Buddies Award” which she felt she should invite all her readers (those listed in the blogroll and those yet to be listed) to share this with her. Because of everybody, she is still surviving.

Along the way, she picked up a few goodies from different strangers who became her friends. She has never thought that this place could be full of such wonderful people who would offer their help and opinions.

She would like to thank Ling and Wen for “The Bloggers of The World Award” which she would love to pass to Miche, Jesslyn, Leah, Huisia, Chooi Peng and Msau.

Her sincere gratitude goes to Elaine for the “Thank You For Being My Friend Award”

and Hazel for “Best Friend Award”.

She felt strongly that “Thank You For Being My Friend Award” should go to Kellan, Mighty Morphin's Mama and Lizzy while the “Best Friend Award” should go to Christine, Rachel and Melinda.

This woman was very touched when she received all the awards. She wanted to say thank you and at the same time apologize for not being able to visit everybody’s blog everyday. There are too many things which need the woman’s attention and with the new schedule of hers, she had been very busy.

She seems so far away but she is actually here, just beside YOU!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Stay Tuned

I'll be back!!!

Monday, January 14, 2008

Do You Want A Very Obedient Child?

What do you want in your child? Do you want a child who is very obedient?

Every parent would love to have children who are very obedient. Who wouldn’t? At least, it would save you all the yelling, spanking, headaches and heartbreaks. The very obedient child would listen when you talk, do whatever you want him to do and follow instructions. Wouldn’t it be perfect to have this type of children?

Think again.

I know of a boy who would shrug his shoulders and say “I don’t know. Ask my mummy.” every time a question is asked including questions like “What do you like?” and “Which do you prefer?” He would do whatever his mother asks him to do and to me, he doesn’t have a mind of his own and he is just like a robot being remote controlled. I for one would not want my children to be THAT obedient.

Read on.

I attended a workshop on S*xual Abuse Prevention by PS The Children one Sunday and that workshop makes me think a lot about how we train our children. Obedience is one trait that would benefit the s*x offender. I was shocked to know that 85% of the s*x offenders are people the children know and love while 15% are strangers. So, when we teach our children to obey their parents or elderly and do whatever they say, we are actually teaching them that it is wrong to say “NO” when they find certain touches to be bad and uncomfortable. Many cases of child s*x abuse involve father and daughter which means children are not even safe in their own home!

We were taught to teach our children this “Say No, Run and Tell” when they feel uncomfortable to someone’s touch or when they feel uncomfortable seeing something or when they feel something is not right. Read more on how to create awareness among children about s*x abuse here.

So, when your children say “NO” to you, we should feel happy that they dare to speak up when they dislike something and when your children have demands, we as parents should feel happy that they know what they want. As long as the children know their limits and that we do not give in to each and every of their demand, I would say having children who are not “merely following instructions without thinking” is great.

Now, who wants a child who is VERY OBEDIENT?

Sunday, January 13, 2008

New Year's Tradition

I got this tag from Juliana and Hazel.

Here goes:

What are some of your new year’s good luck traditions?

Rules :Copy the person and persons’ names that sent it to you and add your own at the bottom of the list. It really helps to build community.

Lets start it here!

*My mom used to collect some coins and when the new year comes she put the coins in a bowl and shake it to create sounds. She said its good luck for money throughout the year. And also wearing dotted dresses on new year don’t know why. CC/chalyza/keep

*My old folks always told us to avoid spending money on new years day. They said, once you spend on the first day of the year, you like to spend the rest of the year.Behind d Scenes of ME/ Retchel’s Pure Life/ /A little bit of me

*I grew up believing that if you have some money on your pocket (whatever you’re wearing) come New Year’s eve it will ensure steady flow of income throughout the year. The other belief is that the main door of the house should be wide open come New Year’s eve so that good luck will be ushered in. Juliana of MY WORLD and JULIANA’S LAIR.

*I don't have any traditionals during New Year. Juliana RW

*I have keep a RM50 note which the serial number is begin with number 8 and end up with number 8 also, between the number, it’s not encourage to have number 4 and number 0. By doing this we will have steady income throughout the whole life. It’s not easy to find such note. Another ways is to keep your “Ang Pao” in your pocket or put it inside your pillow on the New Year eve before you sleep. Hazel

*There are many beliefs but I don’t really follow. To me, to gain good luck, we must radiate positive thoughts and be happy always. (The law of attraction) JO-N

I'm tagging some Chinese around the world:

Audrey (Hong Kong), Moonlady (Taiwan), Ling (Singapore), Sweetpea (Australia), Sam (Malaysia)

Ashop Commerce Shopping Cart Software

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Saturday, January 12, 2008

To Playgroup We Go

We are going to have fun again tomorrow.

It's our playgroup session.

We have missed several sessions.

I'll be preparing craft tomorrow. Get a peep here.

Thursday, January 10, 2008

Do You Regret Having Children?

Why do you get married? Have you ever regretted that you nodded your head when he proposed? If you are a parent, have you regretted having children, especially when they get on your nerves?

Don’t get me wrong. I am not having trouble with my marriage. I am not having trouble with my children either. It is just a topic I find interesting to discuss.

Today, more and more people do not wish to be involved in marriage. Many view marriage as a commitment which they find difficult to fulfill and view children as a burden. Youngsters today would rather keep a dog or a cat as pets instead of having their own children.

Marriage is really a personal choice. It is not compulsory nor is it an obligation. Having children is also a personal choice. If you get married, it doesn’t mean that you must have children. Some have children because they do not want to end up in nursing homes but is that the reason you want children?

I have three children and if you ask me whether I planned it, the answer is YES. My ideal plan was to have three children with two years gap and I can’t believe it went so smoothly as planned.

For those of you who plan to have three children or those who are hesitating to go ahead with another one, read on.

Having three children is not easy and those with three children like Elaine and Miche would agree. The main worry is our financial ability. Can we cope financially with three children? Next comes the fairness issue. Can we be fair and equal to all three children to make them feel important and special as an individual? When they start to fight and quarrel, that is when your headaches begin. You would even have a mental torture when all three of them refuse to obey.

Having said that, what is the difference between two children and three children or maybe more? Two would still fight and quarrel. Two would still give you a mental torture. So, why not go for three? Three doesn’t seem so bad after all.

Sometimes we see too much, hear too much and worry too much. If you do not have problems with your pregnancy and labor, go ahead and plan. Everything is possible if we put our heart and mind to it. Parenting is difficult but we can learn to be a better parent and give our children the best we can.

I am glad I have three children and I do not regret having them. My husband raised his voice when he got excited over a debate with me one day and all three children told their daddy: “Daddy, please don’t scold mummy.” I was so touched and my heart melted. At that moment, I knew that motherhood is all about sacrifices and gains and I have to thank my angels for loving me so much, for training my patience and for giving me a chance to learn along with them.

What makes you get married and what makes you want children? If you are not married, why don’t you want to get married? If you are married but do not want children, why not?

Have Fun With Our Children

It's fun to play with our children and to have fun with them. In the process of having fun, the children learn and they absorb. I am constantly learning to instil the element of fun in their studies and learning. So, I came out with this. Would you support me?

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Sacrifices Vs Gains

Tot’s Mom, in one of her posts, mentioned that there are many sacrifices that we as parents have to make when the children arrived in this world. I do agree with her. There are indeed many sacrifices parents have to make for their children but I think we gain a lot too. Raising our children make us grow. Previously when you fear some lizards or cockroaches, now in front of the kids, you have to act as if you are not scared of anything to train them to be brave. Previously if you do not know certain things, now you have to flip through the encyclopedia when your children start asking you “Why” and “How”. Previously if you have certain bad habits, now you have to change to prevent the children from imitating.

Sometimes, children make us so mad that we wish we hadn’t stepped into this “trap” but other times when they make us happy and proud, we wish the moment would never end. The following conversation is too cute for me to forget:

Wayne: Mummy, why I don’t grow?

Me: You are growing, Wayne. Why did you say you don’t grow?

Wayne: But why am I still 4 years old?

Me: Because you grow little by little and you grow slowly.

Wayne: I don’t want to grow slowly.

Me: If you grow up very fast, you will miss your childhood. Childhood is fun. You can play and you have no worries. If you grow up very fast, you will grow old very fast too. Then, you will be an old man.

Wayne: I don’t want to enjoy my childhood. I want to grow old.

Me: Why?

Wayne: When I grow old, I can buy fish.

Me: Buy fish?

Wayne: Yes. Remember you said I can buy fish when I grow older?

Me: (Laugh)

Now, I remembered. The two boys are always bugging me to buy them fishes as their pets but I insisted that they should be old enough to learn how to take care of the fishes before I can buy them some. No wonder Wayne wants to grow old. He must have been confused between grow older and grow old.

Wayne: Mummy, I am still a baby.

Me: Why do you say that?

Wayne: Because my teeth have not dropped. Kor Kor (Big brother) is a big boy because his teeth have dropped. (Click here if you did not read my previous story)

Me: (Laugh) but babies cannot go to the cinema, babies cannot eat ice-cream and babies cannot do so many things.

Wayne: (Thinking) I’m a SPECIAL BABY. Special baby can go to the cinema.

Me: (Laugh) So, you are a Special Baby. What else can a Special Baby do?

Wayne: Special baby can share toys with kor kor (big brother) and mei mei (little sister). Special baby can eat by himself and don’t mess up.

Me: and Special Baby can behave himself so well and listen to daddy and mummy.

Wayne: Yes. (Gives me a sweet smile, lying in my arms, acting like a baby)

So, I’m going to take advantage of the term “Special Baby” against Wayne when he misbehaves. Hahaha, bad mummy!

Friday, January 4, 2008

New Year Resolution

Dear Juliana and Trinity gave me this opportunity to think of my New Year Resolution. I don't really have any resolution each year although it is good to have one. So, here I am creating my very first list:

*Start Copy Here*
When it comes to New Year’s Resolutions we seem to fall into four categories:

1) quite serious about them,
2) be flippant about them,
3) do it because we feel pressured to, or
4) do not do them.

So, the purpose of this little game is to let us know which category you are in.
Copy from “*Start Copy Here*” through “*End Copy Here*” and post it.
Before "*End Copy Here*" tell us who you are, your site(s) (with link) and your New Year’s Resolution, or not. Then tag as many others as you like, from one to your entire blogroll, your choice. If you like, create an intro paragraph to your post that also acknowledges who tagged you.


Juliana – Juliana's Site - My New Year's resolutions are looking for a part time job, keep blogging, and learn to cook and bake.

Michelle - Rusin Roundup - 1. Learn to be happier and accept myself for who I am, 2. Is to lose about 25 lbs., and 3. Is to stop smoking.

Karen - Grow Rich Along With Me - My resolution for next year is to achieve $3K per month passive income by the end of 2008.

Mel - Attitude, the Ultimate Power & Complain Complain Complain - “I don’t need no stinking resolutions.” I never hold to them anyway so why frustrate myself by starting them now.

Sandee - Comedy Plus - I don't need no stinking resolutions either. Years and years ago I did them because everyone else did, but not once did I follow through. Why set yourself up for failure?

Lynda - lynda's loft - My resolution is to see resolve to that which needs resolution. Like Mel and Sandee, I feel that resolutions give us more stress, however, being a person who sets goals each year, isn't that the same thing as a resolution??? Goals vs. resolutions? Goals are more general and allow for more time to complete them, a resolution requires a mind-set and immediate action, which is not always feasible... Well, that's my story and I'm stickin' to it...

Amelia - Amel's Realm - This is a list of my New Year's Resolution:1. Health: Continue exercising twice a week, eat enough veggies and fruit, have enough rest, take vitamin C regularly and women's multivitamin during my period.2. Spiritual: Improve my Daily Bread reading routine and my prayer life and learn more from God's Word.3. Financial: Continue to make money online (my goal is getting €100 per month at least), be more creative in writing posts, and save most of the money.4. General Life: Continue to learn Finnish AND practice it as best and often as I can, try out more baking and cooking recipes, continue to maintain and share positive thoughts, continue to learn to control my thoughts, continue to learn to catch myself before I start complaining and count my blessings instead, continue to stop and cherish all the little moments in life that oftentimes go unnoticed, and continue to feed my inner child and last but not least, continue to ENJOY my life thoroughly.

Trinity - Rooms of My Heart : My New Year's resolutions in simple and fast way will be blog less and spend more time with my children and read more good books. I want to start studying about global warming and blog it...

Max - MAX - My New Year's resolutions are to dedicate more time to my friends; to finally be able to read "Der Spiegel" in German; to be calm when organizing my marriage; to go one last time to my favourite club and dance the night away; and continue to be happy!

Eric - Speedcat Hollydale - I love chicken. Problem is that I really never get to have enough chicken! My New Year's resolution is to enact "Chicken Tuesday". On this day I will eat only chicken, blog about chicken, and promote chickens all over the world. (hormone free) Join me, won't you?

Marzie - Mariuca & Mariuca's Perfume Gallery - My resolution for 2008 is to enjoy a healthier lifestyle and to expand my Perfume Collection.

Sindi- Life Is A Roller Coaster - My resolution is to complain less, pray more and be a little more thankful for what I have.

Judy - Sugar Queen's Dream - My New Year's resolution is:To take better care of my health.To eat better, well at least 3 meals a day, I'm lucky these days if I stop for one meal a day....To help make the world a better place to live, I love the human race, but think there’s always room for change.To be generous until it hurts.To live each day as if it's my last.To make a book of our personal family recipes and traditions for each of my 3 my children, so that the traditions and family cooking can be passed on in my family line long after I'm gone and finally.......To help more with the local Human society, Animals like little kids can not fend for themselves so it's up to each of us to take care of our pets and to step in and care for all animals.....I hope that through me I can encourage my Children to be better adults and in turn to raise the Children they have or will have, to be good people with good, sound & solid values.... Peace!

Adrian - First Time Dad - My New Year’s Resolution for 2008 is to be a better father…now I don’t usually make New Year's resolutions because I never keep them but this one I better keep! Happy New Year to one and all!

Colin - Life - New Years Resolution? No way...Better to achieve more throughout the year rather than pander to the whims of a one day 'wishful thought'

Mauro - 1 Million Love Messages - My resolution for next year are: 1. Change my job (maybe work online). I'm really unhappy in the actual one. 2. Dedicate more time to my family and girlfriend... maybe start to get ready for our wedding :-) 3. Work hard in 1 Million Love Messages and reach 2500 Love messages (or more) in the end of 2008.

MidgetManOfSteel - Mental Poo - To get out of dealing with people who I have no desire in helping at the job I’m doing…catch the eye of someone who can see that I can write and be funny…and get my own ticket to happiness from my humor….and a Ferrari. While I’m doing this, I resolve to get a Ferrari.

Stacy - My Thoughts - My New Year’s Resolution for 2008 - Is to be more understanding to my children and to other people, Not to curse at others while I am driving, try to eat right and exercise, try to volunteer in my community, and to believe more in my spiritual side.

Jason - & - Although, I normally don't do New Year's Resolutions (because I find it as an excuse to actually do something I should've already been doing), this year I will plan on giving back to the blogging community, especially my audience. I'm not sure how I will do it yet, but I definitely will.

Kesa - Little Aussie Cynic - My New Years Resolution is the standard..... to finally get off the smokes and to loose 8kg.... both which are possible just difficult.....Happy New Year to you and yours….Aussie

Ann - A Nice Place in the Sun - "To let the rest of my life begin as soon as possible."

Jo-N : Shower Your Children With Love - The Right Way : I wish to spend more time with my children and to take care of them better, to be a better mother, a better teacher, a better writer, a better cook and a better wife too.

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FLSam, Deana, Shern's Mom, Healy, do you have any New Year resolution?

A Vacation Without The Children

Holiday is over and it is time for the children to return to school. Do you like holidays or school days better? Holiday is a time to travel and to relax. For me, holidays would mean more time with my children and less time for myself.

Have you gone on a vacation without the kids? Frankly speaking, I have not! My parents and my siblings have just returned from their trip to Bali, Indonesia. The first thing my father said to me when they stepped into my house is that: “You should go for a tour with your hubby and leave the kids with us.” Finally, somebody volunteer to take care of the kids. Should we go for a tour, just the two of us?

The thought of it makes me excited. If my parents nod their heads, there are many places I wish to visit. How about a Hawaii vacation? The beaches, the warmth of the people, the Hawaiian cuisine and the Hawaiian dance are pictures dancing in my mind now. If I were to visit Hawaii, I would not want to miss Maui and Kauai, the two beautiful islands nobody could resist.

Should I book one of those Maui vacation rentals and Kauai vacation rentals? School has just started and it is really impossible to go for a vacation now. So, all I can do now is keep dreaming and hoping that one day, my dream will come true.

Thursday, January 3, 2008


Has your child been frequently shaking his head or blinking his eyes or twitching his cheek or even twitching his fingers? Karl has been shaking his head as in saying NO for about a month. At first, I thought it was a bad habit because I remembered Wayne blinking his eyes very frequently too.

When I first saw Karl shaking his head, I kept asking him to stop shaking but it didn’t work. Then, I remembered Wayne’s teacher telling me not to mention about Wayne’s blinking. According to her, the more we mention, the more we remind him to blink. As that approach worked well on Wayne, I used that approach on Karl, hoping that his head shaking would stop but it didn’t stop.

After a month, I told myself that I should not wait any longer and I should bring Karl to the doctor. We ended up in the clinic for a string of tests. The doctor said it’s either a TIC or a FIT.

Now, a TIC means a repetitive movement of muscles (Click on the link to see full description of TIC) and it will disappear after some time. A FIT would be more serious and it means a minor seizure (Click on the link to see full description of seizure).

Seeing the doctor executing the tests on Karl makes my heart pound very quickly. I was so afraid that it would be a FIT instead of a TIC. After all the tests, the doctor told me that it is most probably a TIC and told me that I should observe Karl and if in anytime it gets more serious, I should bring Karl to the clinic for further checkup.

I think it should be a TIC because as of today, I don’t see Karl shake his head that often. Please, oh please, let it be only a TIC!

Wednesday, January 2, 2008

Hubby Missed London

My husband took his degree in United Kingdom and his brother took his degree in the United States. Today, both of them have their own business and they relate their achievement to their exposure and experience gained when they were overseas. If I have the chance, I would love to gain this exposure too but I am not young anymore. So, all I can do now is to hope that my children have the opportunity to go overseas.

My husband still missed London and my brother in law still missed New York. I know that deep down in their heart, they still wish to go back and visit the place where they have stayed a few years ago. What they have to do now is to save some money and with the click of the mouse, book a hotel in just minutes. The day will come when we can all step into London and New York and maybe that is the day we attend our children’s graduation ceremony.