I was chatting with Miche the other day about children biting their siblings and two to three days ago, Wayne BIT Karl!!! I just told Miche that Wayne used to bite his brother last time but has stopped for quite some time. Gosh! I should have kept my mouth shut! Now, he starts biting his brother again.
What do I do then? Let me share with you:
Me: Wayne, is your brother a chicken?
Wayne: No (Looking at me, very puzzled over my question.)
Me: Then, when you feel like biting, go and bite a chicken or bread or fish. Don’t bite your brother cos he’s not a chicken.
Me: When you feel like hitting someone, go and hit the pillow or the sofa so that nobody will get hurt.
Wayne: When I want to bite, I bite the chicken?
Me: Yes.
Wayne: When I want to hit, I hit the pillow?
Me: Yes.
Wayne: (Smiling now) Ok.
Phew! I was telling Jacss about giving the children little surprises to stop fights, quarrels or misbehavior. I guess this is what I call a surprise because it turns a crying boy into a smiling boy and it stops negative behavior. Since that day, Wayne did not bite Karl and hopefully he will stop this habit forever.
What do I do then? Let me share with you:
Me: Wayne, is your brother a chicken?
Wayne: No (Looking at me, very puzzled over my question.)
Me: Then, when you feel like biting, go and bite a chicken or bread or fish. Don’t bite your brother cos he’s not a chicken.
Me: When you feel like hitting someone, go and hit the pillow or the sofa so that nobody will get hurt.
Wayne: When I want to bite, I bite the chicken?
Me: Yes.
Wayne: When I want to hit, I hit the pillow?
Me: Yes.
Wayne: (Smiling now) Ok.
Phew! I was telling Jacss about giving the children little surprises to stop fights, quarrels or misbehavior. I guess this is what I call a surprise because it turns a crying boy into a smiling boy and it stops negative behavior. Since that day, Wayne did not bite Karl and hopefully he will stop this habit forever.
19 comments:
LOL...this is so funny.
But by telling him that, don't you are indirectly telling him that it is ok to bite and to hit as long as it is not done on human being.
Does this means that when he got angry, it is ok for him to kick the door or punch the wall?
Just a thought.
Haha...this post really made me laugh..but, i am quite ditto what Michelle said. :)
Michelle, Huisia,
I did mention to Wayne that he can hit the pillow or sofa but not the floor or wall or any hard objects as this would hurt himself and damage things.
I think it's really difficult to stop his temper immediately and to stop him from hurting anybody, I think it would be fine if he hit the pillow. After hitting, the anger would disappear.
To stop anger, it takes a long time. Even we as adults get angry very fast and do silly things too. If I guide him along, I'm pretty confident that he'll be fine one day and he'll not hit even the pillow anymore.
That really need some time.
Thanks for your opinion. I'll be extra careful when I deal with Wayne. He's the most difficult child.
My nephew loves to bite us at one time but he is ok now. :P
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Dora:)
Seemed like the middle child do hv a stronger character compared to the other siblings. U're guiding him along jes fine. ;)
haha...this is good!!
My younger daughter bites her sis sometimes.Well,till now I am still don't understand why.:(
Hi, just dropped by for the first time. I love the way you handle the biting and hitting. Better solution than just saying "NO".
Wow, you are really a suprise mum.
I never done that. I need to come and read your blog more often. I really don't know mum can stop fighting like this..
So easy to convince him?
good la u.
i m a very baddie mom... as i was the one who bite my kids! haha..
sigh, that happened a long time ago when I do not know what else to do with them when they were misbehaving.
that made them crying but i regretted immediately. felt so guilty.
shern loves to bite too.. i even asked him to try bite himself. but then..after a while, he starts bitin again. sigh..
LiLi,
It's funny why children go through this stage but I guess it's normal.
Dora,
I'll check it out. Thanks.
Ginnie,
The middle child is always the lost one.
Chinnee,
I actually didn't know whether it'll work and whether my approach is correct but I just gave it a shot.
Sweetiepie,
I think that's normal. They will grow out of it sooner or later.
Angie & Ben,
Thanks for visiting my blog. Kids get bored when we keep saying NO and they don't listen anymore. So, we are forced to think of other ways. It's not easy being parents.
Moonlady,
Haha. Sometimes, it just cross my mind and I try it out. Parenting is trial and error, I guess.
Choooi Peng,
I was shocked too that he accepted so easily. Usually, he is not that easy. Maybe he finds it funny.
Gargies,
Don't feel guilty. Never look back. Keep looking ahead. It's never too late to change. I have gone through all the negative approach too and now I change and I think it is never too late to change.
Leena,
Give him some time. Don't worry. The biting will go off.
That give me an idea to manage my Wen Wen, but i don't think it will ever work on her. Anyway, thanks for the idea, surely i will try it out one day if wen wen fight with xuan xuan again.
any idea, how to deal with kid who love to climb high high high???
sebastian used to bite, so i will bite him back, he cried and telling me it's pain, i told no next time, this is how ppl feel when you bite them... so he stopped biting.. :D, but now Sidney's turn *pening kepala*
Kelly,
Maybe you can try saying: If you like to climb, we will all go and climb the hill (if there is one near your area)together. I think there are many things that children can do but have to do in the right place and at the right time.
Fiona,
You actually did that? It's really fun to exchange experience, ya?
I like the way you teach your kids! Last time when my girl bite, I will bite her back. Because I think this is the most direct way to tell her that biting hurt... hehehe
Jas,
Different people have different ways but all of us have only one same aim. Cheers.
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